Why We Get Addicted to Social Networks

Have you ever tried to hind from every body by pretending that you were *** a phone call, or just, avert your eyes into the opposite direction? Have you ever had the impulse to call someone which faded away the moment you looked through your telephone number list, you finally gave up with a sense of lost? Have you ever made those painful tests like throwing away your telephone, refraining yourself from all the QQ, Blog, Renren and so on, just to know how many people would go crazy to find you. I tried, with the score of 0 call, 1 message send by cellular operator, no one found out I didn’t log in any social networks while there were nearly 300 people in Friends sharing their funs. At that moment, I felt I was a completely looser who was abandoned.
To be frank, I am not good at getting along with people, and I am that kind of person who prefers social networks far more than real social contact. What a coincidence that, so far from I know, the least popular people append most time on social network. At first, when I came to touch with the social networks, it was real brilliant with all the information and functions. Just after a week continuing visiting, I became addicted to it, I was so eager to know what others were doing that I visited the net more often than I wink. Now, as much as I am bored of the social networks which are so meaningless as well as time consuming, however, I still habitually refresh the webpage again and again rather than click the close button.
Social network attracts us since it can leave us a safe space where we can keep in touch with others, or in my eyes observe others, without those delicate, sophisticated, annoying but necessary response we have to show whether by expressions in face to face talk, or tone variation on the phone. In real social contact, you are very impolite to put on a poker face or response with single word. But it is absolutely okay in social networks, because every body dose that. Thanks to the social networks, we show care in ways much more convenient. We can just reply their status with short phrase, or to make it simpler I send a network expression. The laziest way to maintain your friendship is like this: you just mechanically clicking the name when you saw the new status occur, which is my favorite. That person will be happy to see you concern and thank you for increasing his visitor volume. Besides, if that person is to some degree self-obsessed, he may well deduce that you care deeply for him.
Of course, just the convenience is not powerful enough to lead us to addiction. Dose social networks have other magic? Or we are just too lonely. I thought about the reason why I got deeply addicted those virtual communications during the social networks cessation which only lasted for a week before I finally gave up. Some psychologist once said Human initiatively continue to do something only when it give him some kind of rewarding or he can get some pleasure from the process. When we just register a social network, we are satisfied because we find a way to keep in touch with friends, to reconnect with your primary school classmate, to make new friends. When we reply status, share the silly videos, comment the photos, we are happy because we know what is going on with others, which give us a false sense of being involved. When we write the status about the trivial, the showing-off, the emotion and sometimes lost-and-found, we gain the satisfaction of being paid attention to and being existing. I often see lost-and- founds spreading wildly on the net, usually about some tiny worthless things like cups, trinkets, pen and so on, and always with a sentence ”although it is not expensive, but it is given me by XX(often mother, grandmother or best friend)”. Were I them, I would never lose my face to look for such worthless things by exposing private relationship to seek for sympathy. But as more and more people doing it, I started to detect their motivation. Here are my guesses, they are too mean to lose even a pen, they want to show what affectionate people they are, they want to test how many people will lend them a hand by sharing their status, they want to attract more attention. I prefer the answer of being mean and attracting attention.
As long as we have the desire to know others or to be popular, we just can not cure from social network addiction. Next time you see someone visiting your personal page, don’t be hasty to be happy, think of other more reliable possibilities, such as a touch by mistake, he is in the toilet, and showing others what an idiot looks like.